Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Be yourself...

It's always a pleasure for me to read quotes from 'One Tree Hill'...I don't need a special reason to read them because if you'll have a look at this site: oth's famous words/quotes you'll get hooked up, and you'll immediately figure out how amazing this show's simplicity & at the same time complexity of showing all the sides of life is enough about the show. Here I chose a beautiful quote which I want to talk about because it goes with my mood right now and because it is meaningful and I think you should all take a second to think about these facts....maybe you'll relate to them...who knows...

"I guess it’s easier to see what we want, than to look for the truth. You think you know me but you don’t. And that means you don’t know what I can do. You see me as someone who’s popular and has all the answers. That’s not true. I may not always know what I’m doing but I’ll try make things better. And when I make a mistake because face it, we all do I promise I’ll ask for your help. I can’t do this alone. But if you’ll take a chance on me, we can do great things together. I promise, if you believe in me, I’ll find the courage to reach for your every dream. John F. Kennedy said the courage of life is a magnificent mixture triumph and tragedy. A man does what he must, in spite of personal consequences, in spite of obstacles and dangers and pressures and that is the basis of all morality."

This quote reminds me of another quote from OTH, when Peyton said to Lucas "First of all you don't know me. Second of all, you don't know me." That's how I feel right now. Surrounded by friends and all kinds of different people, every single day, and I can tell that neither of them know me. The real me. The 100% me. They know only sides of my personality that I let them see. In the end I don't know who's fault is it that this is happening but I guess me and my friends will have to share that fault. Starting from this point, yes, I think it is easier to see what we want, then to look for the truth. People easilly misjudge other people, which obviously leads to misunderstandings. It's like they have their minds, as well as their eyes covered with a rather thick veil that prevents them from seeing the truth, the real person who stands in front of them and calls them a friend.
Friends are there for each other. At least that's what it says in my books. Maybe my books have old stories but I still think they are true. As far as I know, friendship never goes out of fashion. But I guess that works only for REAL friendships, not the fake ones or "you use me-I use you" type, along with the "show-off" friendships. I guess we all have different types of friends, just as I do, I have friends who listen to the same music/watch the same movies as me, or who have the same hobbies as me but I also have friends who are completely different from me and like completely different things. Nevertheless they're still great friends. If it's one thing I've learned is that people with different personalities & different life goals CAN get along quite well. Trust me.
But what do you do when someone really close to you, who you thought understands you quite well and appreciates you for who you are, suddenly makes you see that you aren't as understood as you thought? Well...that's kinda sad. You suddenly realise that they would like to change you or that they aren't so pleased with who you are and it makes you feel the stable ground was swept from under your feet and you don't know what to do. First of all you don't know me. Second of all, you don't know me. I guess no one ever knows us 100%. They know what we show or tell them but in the end they believe what they want. You think you know me but you don't. And that means you don’t know what I can do. That's true. A lot of people assume way to easily that they "know" us. Well think again. Do you? This bothers me because most of the times people assume that they know us and they bring that against us like : "I know you too well, you can't make it." or "I know you quite well, you won't do that." Or they simply think that they already know EVERYTHING about us and there's nothing left to discover so they don't try to look deeper anymore. People change. They find new hobbies, they like and appreciate new things all the time. Try to break the walls people built around themselves and get to know the real person, with an OPEN HEART and an OPEN MIND.
I may not always know what I’m doing but I’ll try make things better. Nobody is perfect, we all know that. We all make mistakes. I make mistakes. I also admit my mistakes if I know that I did something wrong. Some people think they "know" me and believe I can't make mistakes...well I hate to break it to you but the sun is not always shining on my side of the bed. I am wrong at times and I like to face the facts and solve the problem. But I hate it when people assume that I made mistakes on purpose. Nope, I didn't mean to hurt you and no, I didn't get a tingle in my toes, neither it made me giggle when I disappointed you. But they still assume the worst. Get over yourself and try to listen to that person and give her a chance. Everything will be ok.
My conclusion is that we need to be more UNDERSTANDING and to try and see behind appearences. Accept people as they are, don't assume anything because just like one of my university teachers said in class, assume means making an ass of you and me. :))

If you let me be myself, we can do great things together.

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